There are many different types of relationships, but in the 21st century, the existence of dating apps and endless options have created a new dating trend that is a label, but isn’t a label: the situationship.
Many people fall into a situationship, where one partner may become invested, where they have developed romantic feelings and an emotional connection, while the other partner continues to indulge in their freedom, by seeing other people and not committing to any relationship.
Situationships can be the label that two partners put on their relationship, but it can also be a trap for one partner to drag along another partner because of things like convenience and sex.
Because a situationship can drag on for months - wasting the time of a partner who wants to be in a relationship - it is important to understand and recognize the signs of a situationship.
Many people who are a part of situationships may feel that the relationship they have with their partner is directionless – but still hold on to hope that their situationship will eventually blossom into a committed, serious, and healthy relationship. But recognizing the different signs of a situationship can help save you from heartbreak and investing your time in someone that is not ready to be in a committed relationship.
In dating relationships, learning to trust what your partner does and says, and regarding it as truth is the easiest way to come to terms with where your relationship stands.
Sometimes the signs of a situationship are implicit, but they can be explicit as well – and it is important to come to terms with these signs in the early stages of your relationship to keep your heart, head, and mental health safe.
Situationships are relationships that have no clear intentions or end goals between partners, and this usually starts with the lack of defining the relationship.
Defining the relationship is a key part to establishing a middle ground between you and your partner: it allows partners to enforce boundaries: physically, emotionally, and sexually. It also allows partners to share their goals of the relationship – whether that is a week, month or a year down the line.
Situationships can be a temporary label for the relationship – especially if you haven’t been seeing each other long and just started spending time together.
However...situationships don’t always occur months down the line. In fact, a situationship may be established after only a few dates.
Whatever way you find yourself into a situationship— it is likely that one person in the partnership is ready to commit while the other partner is not ready to define the relationship status and may be exploring relationships with other people.
Situationships have a lack of commitment and an undefined romantic relationship. They also tend to occur for many reasons, including:
Friends with benefits situations can be very similar to a situationship. But in a friends with benefits situation, those involved check-in with each other before the relationship starts.
But when it comes to situationships . . .
The difference between a relationship and a situationship is that a relationship has a clear, defined label that both partners agree to.
There are many telltale signs that you may be in a situationship, and one of the obvious indications is that the relationship that exists between you and your partner is stagnant: it doesn’t change.
You may also be in a situationship if your partner tends to make last minute plans or make last minute cancellations on the regular, especially if they tend to use the same excuses – such as being busy at work or having other commitments like the gym.
You and your partner may be more comfortable with “dirty talk” rather than having deep, understanding conversations.
The longer your relationship lacks a title, the easier it is for the relationship to become a situationship.
Some situationship red flags include
If you’re looking for a relationship, but have found yourself in a situationship, you may want to take a deeper look at how you’re feeling. Situationships can lead to disappointment, feelings of dissatisfaction, and not feeling secure. If you want a relationship and aren’t getting that from the other person, you may want to find someone who will commit to you and build the foundations of a healthy relationship.
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